Anonymous: have you ever feel like you've tried so hard but it's still not good enough? i have let down my parents so many times that i lost counts. whenever i go back to my country,my relatives always look down at me and compared my grades with my cousins and siblings who are way smarter than me. i feel sick when they do this every bloody years. i have work so hard to please everyone,now i just want to cry and hurt my self. people tell me everything will be better but the truth is getting worse. im tired.Of course, anon. Every one has felt like that. Honestly, there are ALWAYS going to be people out there that you will never please, no matter how hard you try. You could do everything in your power, and it will never be enough. You have to remember this, that behavior IS NOT a reflection on you, it’s a reflection on THEM! Deep inside, they aren’t happy or content with themselves. Don’t waste your energy trying to get approval from these kinds of people. Your effort is good enough, lovely! YOU are good enough! Always know that. The people who are truly there for you will always be proud of you for your accomplishments. Hey, I’m proud of you! You sound like one hardworking, intelligent person and that is someone anyone could be proud of! Always keep your head up, and do things because you want to accomplish them! Do what makes you happy! That will ultimately make the people in your life worth getting approval from, happy too! <3
Take a second and think about the one thing that promotes attraction the most. I’ll give you a hint. The answer is not physical looks, wealth, having things in common, or even the person’s personality. I know, it’s crazy right? The answer is actually proximity. Study after study finds that most people tend to become attracted to people who are physically close to them. The theory is called the mere exposure effect, and it states that we tend to become attracted to a novel stimuli if it was repeated over and over again. I am sure you once saw a very attractive person who caught your attention while passing by your car, then you never saw him/her again. Why do most people forget about that very attractive person a few days later? Simply because they never see that person again. If the stimuli wasn’t reinforced we tend to forget about it even if we liked it. It really is true. Just talking to someone a lot can do so much. You may not even see it coming. But If you spend a considerable amount of time with someone, you could be friends one day, and before you know it, you’ve completely fallen head over heals in love with each other. Maybe this has happened to you. You can’t fight it, but why would you want to? It’s a beautiful thing, really.
